Once I have broken up what is the best way to get my ex back ? I am tempted to flood my ex with messages, emails and other crafty ways of getting to see him/her. I know deep down though that this is NOT the best way to get my ex back.
Sometimes I feel desperate and panic sets in. What does that lead to ? Well, all sorts of desperate actions and really all I do is make the situation ten times worse. If I am hot headed then I cannot think straight – never mind thinking about a strategy. Nobody can think clearly in that state!
Why I am feeling panicky ? Shouldn’t I be able to get over this ? The answer is that the familiar world (even one with tiffs and rows) was at least reassuring. Now that has gone and I am faced with a lot of question marks about my future and that’s what causes the panic , I guess.
First Step. I need to stand back and stop calling my ex so that I am not going to do anything foolish. This is called the cooling off period and it is very useful for lots of reasons. So,I am going to give it a rest and use my energy more wisely like, say, looking after myself, number one.
Second Step. What do I do if I keep meeting my ex? We may move in the same social circles, clubs and even the workplace. No panic ! There is no need to become like Great Garbo .Why should I become a recluse? So, I just act as normally as possible and am friendly and say ‘Hello’ and then get on with whatever I am doing.
Third Step. I will now decide the date when this cooling off period is going to end. A month should be fine and I can even mark my diary with that date or put a post it on the fridge door!
Fourth Step: These are the things I must avoid. Resist the temptation to stalk my ex. I will not plan revenge. I will not talk about him/her in a negative way with the few friends I have left. I say few, because there is nothing more boring for my friends than having to listen to the whole sorry saga again !
Fifth Step. Ask myself why I am having these thoughts. If I actually did carry them out they would not put me in a very attractive light . They would only persuade my ex that he/she was right to leave me !
Sixth Step. Now I am going to start thinking seriously and rationally and I will begin to see light at the end of the tunnel – that is I begin to see why things went all wrong. Also now I reckon I should be able to open up communication after the cooling off period.
Now that I am beginning to see more clearly I can start planning my strategy but I must be careful because if I put a foot wrong here, I could lose the game. I can win back my ex. The link below is going to help me follow that strategy and it is a winner !
Author Resource:-
Mark L. Robertson writes on dating and relationships. He recommends The Magic of Making Up as the best program out there. You can find it at http://roblok1.makingup.hop.clickbank.net/
The Free Ride In Public Schools 27 Nov 2008 at 11:28am
Why should public-school students bother doing homework or studying hard if they advance to the next grade no matter how bad they do in class? That would be dumb, and these kids are not dumb. Punishing the Victim -- Why Public Schools Pressure Parents To Give Their Kid... 27 Nov 2008 at 11:28am
It is normal for bright, energetic kids to be bored in public school. To solve the problem of "unruly" children, public schools now pressure parents to give their kids potentially dangerous mind-altering drugs. The Graceful Art of Defrazzling - For Mothers 27 Nov 2008 at 11:28am
An introduction to a "defrazzled" method of surviving life as a mother
If you are interested in learning about and discussing social services and social services agency management, please visit SocialServicesAgencyManagement.com where you will also learn about the new ecological model of excellence.
![[Valid RSS feed]](/images/icon_Rss.png "XML Feed For RSS"){kind=icon}
Category Rss Feed
Print This Article
Add To Favorites
